Neurodiverse Love

Whether you are the autistic or neurotypical partner in a neurodiverse romantic relationship, are interested in a neurodiverse relationship, or are in the helping profession or the education field, this series of three workshops is for you. During this training series the presenter will provide insight on some of the unique challenges neurodiverse couples may be experiencing in their romantic relationships. She will also provide some simple steps that can be taken to address some of the challenges that may create unintentional hurt or misunderstandings. More specifically, the presenter will provide information on the key components of the Neurodiverse Love Relationship GPS (Gaining Perspective for Success) that she has created. Participants will learn more about each of the topics below:

Monday, February 20, 2023
7-8 PM
Session 1

  • Learn the importance and value of understanding and accepting each partner’s differences.
  • Understand the value of taking time to recognize and grieve what happened before understanding and accepting neurodiversity.
  • Understanding what each partner needs and values individually and in their relationship.
  • Understanding that each partner can have different perspectives and both be right at the same time.
  • Appreciating and valuing each partner and understanding how each partner wants or needs to be shown love.

Monday, March 20, 2023
7-8 PM

Session 2

  • The importance of not taking things personally when you have different operating systems..
  • Understanding that communication may mean different things to each partner and learn how to communicate with compassion and respect.
  • Understanding each partner’s social quotas and socializing needs.
  • Sharing and understanding emotions can be challenging for anyone. Learn about the importance of creating emotional safety for each partner.
  • The value of getting together with your partner on a regular basis to plan and schedule things that are important to each of you individually and as a couple.

Monday, April 17, 2023
7-8 PM

Session 3

  • Learn the importance of understanding and respecting any sensory sensitivities each partner may have.
  • Understand the value of making decisions together that will impact both of you and/or your family.
  • Create a system to share and schedule household responsibilities, based on each other’s strengths.
  • Understand each other’s physical and sexual intimacy needs and desires.
  • Learn the value and importance of being “impeccable with your word”.
  • Whether you in a neurodiverse relationship, a helping professional, or an educator, there will be information shared through through this workshop series that will help you gain a better understanding of how neurodiverse couples can thrive individually and in their relationship.

About the Presenter

Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D

Mona Kay was married for 30 years to a very intelligent, methodical, caring, creative, and loyal man, however, she always wondered why it often felt like they were speaking two different languages, even though they weren’t.  Throughout their relationship, they seemed to be having the same social and emotional challenges that were often connected to their different ways of communicating, thinking, and processing, as well as various sensory differences.

Mona has been a social worker for more then 30 years, however in the 1980’s when she earned her bachelor’s and master’s degrees, Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) and Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) were not in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM), so she never learned about them.

In her 29th year of marriage (after being separated from her husband for over a year), Mona learned about Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), through a friend of hers who was dating someone she thought was neurologically different.  After seeing the similarities between this man and her husband, Mona went on a search to find as much information as she could about AS and ASD. Everything she read explained exactly what her and her husband had been going through during their 30+ years together.

Although Mona and her husband amicably divorced in 2018, two years later, in 2020, Mona realized she was ready to share her story.  She also wanted to help others find the resources they needed to better understand their Neurodiverse relationships.  In September, 2020, Mona started the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast with her friend who had dated the man who was neurologically different.  Since that time, more then 100 episodes of the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast have been published and the podcast has had more then 70,000 downloads, from people in more than 60 countries.  In addition, Mona started the @neurodiverse_love Instagram account and her website:, to share lessons learned, lived experiences and the resources she has found along the way on her Neurodiverse Love journey.  

Mona facilitates two FREE monthly on-line support groups for the neurotypical/non-autistic partners in a neurodiverse relationship and she also offers affordable workshops and support groups for neurodiverse couples.  On February 14th & 15th, 2023 Mona will host the first virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference which will include 27 presentations from leaders in the field of neurodiverse relationships, neurodiverse couples and both autistic and neurotypical/non-autistic individuals who are (or have been) in neurodiverse relationships.

Registration Required

Accommodations: We strive to host inclusive, accessible events that enable all individuals to engage fully. To request accommodations or for inquiries about accessibility, please contact Dr. Ann-Marie Orlando at 352-265-2239 or